This could possibly be one of the most obvious blog topics I’ve ever written about. For some reason, though, I get asked how I’m able to make friends so easily. So, I thought I’d outline a few things that I try to do (these come naturally to me, so I’m not sure how to foster these in others)
1. Speak the word.
Of course, the first rule in making a connection, networking, meeting a man/woman, or making a friend is speaking to them. This seems to get harder and harder in a culture that kinda de-values personal interaction. But if you’re going to have meaningful relationships, speak to people. Keep your head up when around new people, look for common ground, and strike up conversation.
I realize that some people won’t be the instigators of conversation, but it’s still important that you keep your head up to reciprocate when people like me instigate. :)
2. Repeat the effort.
Friendship doesn’t happen in one meeting. It takes time to build it. Make an effort.
Don’t be creepy, don’t seem like a stalker, but make an effort to speak the next time you see the person. Remember the past conversation. It shows you care, it shows you value them.
3. Lose the agenda.
Love people. That’s what it’s ultimately about. No agenda. Don’t seek to make friends, don’t seek to make a connection that will benefit you, just love people.
Your turn. Have any suggestions for making friends or building relationships?